Monday, July 30, 2012

Daniel Charles Clayton Jr.


Daniel Charles Clayton Jr.
Born 7:10 pm July 29, 2012
He was 7 lbs. 6 oz. and 20 in. long

I wanted to try and remember as many details as possible so I decided I would write it out before I forget all of those little details.  The night before, July 28th was our 5 year Anniversary and we went out to celebrate with Ben and Shalyse because it was their 6 year Anniversary.  I work up several times during the night being sick.  I woke up Sunday morning and was debating on going to church or not. I had already made arrangements for someone to cover for me in primary. In the end I decided to go.  I spent all of sacrament meeting just not feeling well and wanted to go somewhere quiet to be alone.  I decided to go home to get some rest and returned to pick everyone up after church at 12 pm. I remember 'just not feeling right.'  We came home and everyone had lunch and then everyone went down for naps. At about 2:15 pm I started having contractions that were 5 min. apart.  I didn't think much of it because, hey, I'd been having contractions like these for several weeks.  After 30 min. of the contractions keeping up while I was resting we decided to go for a walk thinking it would help things along or they would stop.  It was 90 degrees outside, so we decided to go to a place that had A/C. Around 3:45 they had gotten closer and stronger.  And I felt like it was time to call the Dr.  I called their office and talked to the operator who said the Dr. would call me back.  Dan and I headed home and we let our moms know (both of our moms had flown in for the birth) and packed our bags.  We called and made arrangements with Ben and Shalyse for the girls and then waited for the phone call from the Dr. to tell us to come in.  The midwife finally called back at 4:30 pm. I guess she had been given the wrong number and had been trying to reach me. After talking to me she knew I was uncomfortable and told me to come on in to the hospital.  We dropped the girls off with Ben and Shalyse.  We arrived at the hospital and got checked in and delivered to our room at 5:15 pm.  The contractions were still coming but they weren't getting significantly stronger, so I was worried I was having false labor.  The nurse was unsure I was in labor because I seemed so calm with the contractions being only 2 min apart.  While she was asking us questions, I had two strong contractions that were 1 min apart at which point my water broke at 5:50 pm and there was no question..........I was definitely in labor.  It was interesting when my water broke because I felt a trickle and when I got up to use the restroom there was a huge gush of fluid.  It was the first time my water had broken on it's own and it was a strange feeling!   The nurse checked me to see I was 4 cm dilated, 80% effaced and my cervix was still pretty far back. We all felt it would be a while.The midwife came in to talk to me to figure out what my birth plan was for pain medication and such.  I told her I wanted to be able to move about and wanted to see how far I could go without an epidural. I asked them to bring in a birthing ball and then I spent the next hour on the birthing ball with Dan rubbing my back through the contractions. At about 6:50 pm I asked if we could try the jacuzzi because the contractions were getting to the point where I needed some relief and I wanted to try warm water before anything else.  Up until this point I was still able to talk in between contractions.  I decided I wanted to get up and started to make my way to the tub.  I only got 3 steps before I had a very, very strong contraction and was in so much pain I doubled over and told Dan I wanted the epidural.  Then another big strong contraction came and I could feel that the baby was coming. I shouted to Dan that the baby was coming and Dan called to the nurse in a frantic voice that the baby was coming.  The nurse and Dan had to drag me over to the bed.  It took all my will power to climb into the bed as I had a strong urge to push with each contraction.  The midwife came in and told me to slow my pushing and to use slow grunts as his head came out. I will never forget how it really did feel like 'a ring of fire' as his head came into this world. It all happened so fast they didn't have time to take the lower half of the bed down and put my feet into the stir ups.  The midwife barely had time to put the plastic bag under me to catch everything. He was born at 7:10 pm. I had no taring, which I am so grateful for.....it would have been so painful to have her stitch me with no pain medication. The placenta had a hard time coming out and she had to do a lot of painful pushing on my stomach.

I had wanted to go into labor naturally because I felt like it would be easier to make it through the contractions, if they slowly built up in strength over time.  I also felt like recovery would be easier if I didn't have an epidural.  My recovery was harder with Bella then Hannah and I think it was because I had gotten an epidural with Bella.  I will admit recovery has been pretty easy all in all so far, now that it's been 25 hours after delivery.  One thing I did not know was that the cramping after delivery would be so bad with #3. I guess with each baby it becomes more painful because your uterus has to work harder to return to normal size.  I also was very stunned after the quick labor and delivery, and the terrible cramping that it took a few extra hours to feel connected to my little guy.   I have found that skin to skin contact after each nursing session has helped me to bond with him.  I love him to pieces and am so glad he is here.  He has been extra sleepy the last little while and has been pretty easy so far. I'm sure that will change but for now he has been very easy going.  Tomorrow we head home!

* I remember with each contraction towards the end praying to Heavenly Father to help me make it through the next one. It would have been a lot harder without prayer.

* According to my mom, I was dilating as he was coming.  The midwife was telling the nurse as I was dilating what I was at (I did not remember this because I was concentrating on getting through the pain.)  I guess it took about an hour to get to 5 cm and then mere minuets to get to 10 cm.  The big contractions just pushed him down into the birth canal and then everything flew by from there! I had told that same midwife months ago that I have fast deliveries but she didn't believe me when I told her how fast the other two had gone. Next, I think they'll believe me :)

* Just to add some humor, when I asked Dan if I was screaming or making any kind of noise his reply was I sounded like a cross between a bear and a wolf :)  Oh thank you for the reenactment, Dear.

*Dan also cackled and cried like a school girl (his words not mine :)  as our little boy came into the world.  And he would have told me that he had hair like he did with Bella but he knew I was too concentrated on what I was doing to hear anything else.  He also said the little boy let out one loud cry and that's what started the water works.  My mom was also crying.

* Dan's mom had stepped out to get some food because we hadn't had anything to eat since lunch.  And while she was out she missed the birth and arrived about 15 min. after he was born.

* My friend, Tami Huntsman, was going to do a maternity photo shoot for us at 6 pm.  We had been trying to schedule it for months but something always seemed to come up.  We called her when we were at the hospital to let her know we would be having a baby instead.

Monday, July 23, 2012

39 weeks

So another Dr. appointment today. I'm pretty much at the stage where being pregnant IS NOT fun anymore. Everyone keeps asking me when I'm due or if I'm overdue. When I tell them it's this weekend, they all say they could tell because I have that look. Not sure what 'that' look is but it's been referred to by several people.  Today's appointment was kind of weird. The 'nurse' who brought me back was actually the Nurse practitioner.  And then they placed me in their kitchen while they waited for a room to open. It was kind of strange and I was glad to be placed in an actual room. Baby is doing great. We're both still growing.  I feel so huge all the time.  I think this pregnancy has been the hardest on my body.  I have so many more aches and pains that I do not remember having with the previous 2.  Also my blood pressure is still 120/70!  The Dr. said there was no change from last week. Despite the fact I was up at 5:30 this morning with painful contractions, that felt like the real thing.  He did a membrane sweep...............so we'll see if that actually does anything. I have never had it done before and heard it is very painful. Overall it wasn't that bad............I'm not saying I would have it done everyday though :) I've been having contractions and lots of spotting.  Here's to hoping he'll come before my next appointment!  Just not on our Anniversary, which is this Saturday............if he decided to come early the next morning, that would be fine ;)  I had already had Bella by this point in the pregnancy and tomorrow will be about how far I got in the pregnancy with Hannah before I had her. So here's to another week and maybe this being my longest pregnancy to date. 

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Over thinking

I'm the kind of person who likes to think of every scenario possible and then have a plan for anything that could possibly happen. I was talking to Dan the other night and was asking all these "What if's"  and he laughed and said I was over thinking everything and just to relax.  I guess with the baby coming I want everything to go well and everything to run smoothly. I worry about my girl's, especially since Bella is sick right now.  I also think it doesn't help that I have become OBSESSED with labor! And all these hormones do not help :)  I worry that Dan won't make it in time or worse I won't make it in time to the hospital. The Dr. and midwives all keep telling me how 3rd babies are unpredictable.  I know they mean it to be reassuring (as in they are saying he probably won't come as fast, but then he could) but how is that reassuring ? lol.  I worry about having everything in order with the house.  I worry about a lot of things! I'm also worried he'll be late and then we can't bless him when both grandma's are in town. I am going to try to stop over thinking :)  If you read all this then thank you for sitting through my ranting! I do feel better now that I have voiced my worries. 

Monday, July 16, 2012

38 weeks

Only 13 more days until me due date!  Today was another Dr. appointment.  I still can't believe how good my blood pressure is! I was so happy to finally get some answers to what is going on with my cervix. I am 3 cm dilated, 50% effaced and he is at a -2 station (+5 is when you are ready to deliver and a -5 baby is still floating and not engaged.)  I woke up this morning at 5 am with some contractions that kept me up until 6 am. I was able to go back to sleep for another 1 1/2 hours, which was so nice!  So we will see what happens. I've had more energy since my birthday and have been nesting like crazy.  The braxton hicks are more frequent and strong.    I'm just glad to know he'll be here soon.

Friday, July 13, 2012

Update on life in general

First harvest of our corn.  The fork is for size comparison.

Yumm!
Second harvest.  The last one on the right was pretty mangled. 
A baby carrot. We didn't do much to prep the soil and the clay makes it hard for the roots of a lot of the plants to grow very much.  It's just been exciting to know that we CAN grow something!
We decided one Saturday it was time to install a ceiling light and fan for the girls.   We had to completely rewire the room.

Dan cut a hole in the ceiling and placed a ceiling mount.




And here is the finished product!!   It was a fun project to work on together and we learned a lot together.

Our fearless climber!

We have a park that is two blocks away and there is a ton wild black berry bushes on the walk there. Since it cooled of this week we took a walk to the park and collected about 1 cup for lunch on the way home. Hannah loved doing this!

36 weeks.

We went with my sister in-law and her two kids to the Natural Science Museum in Raleigh this last Wednesday.



Love this girl!  She cracks me up!

Me with my birthday roses and chocolates. My birthday was very low key and nothing grand this year. I spent the day cleaning and organizing. And in the evening we went out to eat at Longhorn Steak House.  I was really hoping for a baby!

Showing off my belly, 37 weeks!




Monday, July 9, 2012

37 Weeks

Today was another Dr. appointment! She said everything looks good. My blood pressure is still great. He is 'engaged,' I was not surprised because my belly has been seeming a lot lower and I have to use the bathroom constantly!  They did not check my cervix (Sorry if that it TMI :)............so I have no idea where I am with that.
This last week has been hard. With the heat, swelling, lack of sleep, and hormones it makes me so glad to finally be near the finishing line.   Weekends seem to be when I have the most contractions, so maybe a clue that he will be born on a weekend?   I am hoping with all that is going on this month that the time will fly by!
It's so funny all the things you forget about the last month!  I was reading out of my pregnancy book about how I would become more hormonal and anxious this month, and was glad I was not feeling that way. The next day, I noticed how much more sensitive I have become and how much more grumpy I have been.  I'm sure waking up 3-5 times a night isn't helping :)  Friday when Dan came home late again because of month end, I was less than kind because of what the girls had put me through that day.  Dan was very understanding and asked me how I was doing. That's when I know I'm being a dragon,  Dan will stop what he's doing and ask "How are you doing today, Hun?". And my ankles and feet swelling to amazing size!  Sunday's seem to be the worst for the edema. And it is so hard to be comfortable in anything, especially with all of this heat.  If I had my way, I would spend all day in my nightgown...............it's just so cool and comfortable! Well, that's the latest update on how I'm feeling!

Tuesday, July 3, 2012

36 Weeks

So, I went in for my OB appointment yesterday and everything is looking great!  Good news, he is head down!!  Woot woot! So that has helped with a lot of worries.  I started doing research and  decided I was going to attempt a breech vaginal birth, but luckily it will not come to that.  I've also decided that I'm going to avoid an induction unless it is medically necessary.  I have been thinking a lot about how I want the birth to go and such. I feel less anxious for the pregnancy to come to an end and am a lot more calm.  I think part of the reason why this time I am less anxious is because it doesn't seem real yet. As my belly grows larger I can't help but look in the mirror every time I walk by one, not in vanity but with wonder and awe. Wonder with the fact that my body is housing a living human being, a child of God.  I also wonder, "Will this be my last pregnancy?"  And I find it makes the wait more durable knowing this could possibly be the last chance I get to experience this.  Please, keep us in your prayers that all will go well when it is time for the birth. Thank you.